During the first year of Tribal Wisdom shows I had the pleasure of interviewing a very fun and long timed married couple. Dr. Dwayne Shigg and his wife Sheryl graced us with wise words for marriage and I just had to share them with you here again.
Dr. Shigg shared that one of the reasons he wrote the book Some Things to Know about Marriage Before You Have a Wedding: And After Too, was to assist those who are preparing to be married. It came out of a workshop that he had done called “Some Things to Do before You Say I Do” that helped people to be prepared for marriage. One of the things that he discovered when doing the workshop was that there were many people who were already married who wanted to come because of the information was still relevant to them.
That was the motivation behind writing the book. Giving people some practical information, and some experiential information if you will; to help people make decision or at least provoke them to some conversations, and to provoke them to think.
Here are some points to ponder:
· It's Worth It but It's Work. Marriage is worth it, but there's a lot of work. It doesn't just happen because you're in love. After you're finished being in love, somebody's still got to take the trash out.
· Work on yourself to become partnership material.
· When you get married, that makes you a groom - it doesn't make you a husband
· Becoming a husband or a wife takes some work, it takes some time, and it involves changing your thinking from 'me-thinking' to 'we-thinking'.
· Learn to hear a request as consideration, and not as a command.
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